I’ve never considered co-sleeping and it’s all for purely selfish reasons. It’s bad enough I have to share my space and blankets with FringeMan. I am a self-proclaimed bed hog and FringeMan will be more than willing to verify that fact.
When I brought my firstborn home from the hospital, I had his crib positioned in my room where I could be sure to hear every whimper and stir. That lasted for approximately two days. FringeMan’s snoring kept waking him and I couldn’t sleep because I heard every last whimper and breath he took. For the sake of my sanity and our family’s health, I quickly moved the crib to his own bedroom.
I wish I could say he immediately became a good sleeper, but that would be as big a lie as saying I’m a five foot eleven super model. FringeBoy didn’t once sleep through the night until he was well over one year old. Maybe it was bad parenting, maybe it was an uncomfortable mattress, or maybe it was just that he was an irritable baby who enjoyed driving his mother crazy. My money is on that last option.
Anyway, I can probably count on one hand the number of times I brought either of my children to bed with me. When they were in my bed, I could not sleep a wink. I need to be comfortable to sleep and that requires space, pretzel like contortions and fluffy pillows. Nestling a baby in the six inch gutter between Fringeman’s back and myself allowed for none of those comfortable options.
My babies slept in their cribs.
I recently slept with my daughter while staying in a hotel. She’s a worse bed hog than I am and she’s half my size. In the wee hours of the morn, I was awakened when her body flopped on top of my chest with a thud. All the wind was knocked from my lungs and as I gasped, I inhaled a mouth full of hair. It was 3 am and I was fully awake and watching the clock. My back was to her as I hugged the edge of the bed. I couldn’t believe her audacity when she poked me and asked me to move over.
MOVE OVER! I’d be on the floor if I scooted 1/2 an inch. Couldn’t do it when they were babies and I still can’t. Co-sleeping doesn’t work for me.
I know many women who practiced co-sleeping or bringing baby to bed with them. They loved the closeness during infancy and it made 2 am feedings a cinch; however, many of these same parents have an extremely difficult time kicking baby out of their bed.
Snuggling gets old when your newborn is now six years-old and requires half the bed. What about several children, mom, dad, and the dog all in the same bed? How does anyone sleep?
I don’t think they do. Not well. Not from my second hand experience. I know too many parents who suffer from fatigue due to a bed full of big babies.
It is my humblest opinion that everyone, except mom and dad, should be kicked out of the master bedroom, including the cat and dog. Then flip a deadbolt as quickly as possible, sink into your newly bought feather-bed, and snuggle with your spouse. I think the guilt will fade by morning and you’ll be able to make it past noon without 6 pots of coffee.
What do you guys think?
What’s your experience been with or without co-sleeping?
I didn’t even mention the possible health risks for baby. The jury is out on whether there is an increased risk for SIDS when babies are in parent’s beds. That’s a whole other topic.
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The book is Mojo Mom, Nurturing Your Self While Raising a Family, written by Amy Tiemann, Ph.D. It has been said that through this book, the author “helps thousands of women regain their creative surge that brings their sense of self and their dreams back into focus.”
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Can’t wait to hear your words of wisdom on co-sleeping!
For another interesting parenting post, read Feeding Baby.