Sorry, I would have written this post sooner, but life got in the way. I do want you to know I am ignoring my sink full of dirty dishes for you.
Ok, so you want to know about the bad of homeschooling. I could mention the Math tears, or the times when I want to make my son march right on down to the elementary school and find himself a classroom, but I think these are just normal frustrations. You can experience these feelings even if you are not homeschooling. Ever consider boarding school for your kids?
I thought so.
Remember, I am no expert. In fact, I am a novice; however, I believe there could be at least two real negative aspects of homeschooling. It is possible to avoid these pitfalls, but I think it takes viewing yourself and your children without the mommy-love blinders on.
It is easy for homeschooling moms to tailor every little aspect of their child’s education to fit their little student’s personality and learning style. Bad. At least in my opinion. Teaching your children to adapt and to be flexible is a valuable life skill. I believe teaching your child to be adaptable is one of the greatest gifts you can give your little one.
At some point your child will enter a classroom or the workplace and they will be faced with tasks that challenge them. Assignments that aren’t tailored to fit their interests, personalities, or learning capabilities. They will be pushed out of their comfort zones and possibly beyond their ability.
I believe it is our job to not just teach our children reading, writing, and arithmetic, but also to teach them how to work through the most challenging tasks. So it is my opinion that while we foster a love for learning in our children by allowing them to explore their interests, we must also require them to complete assignments that are outside their realm of interest. We must challenge the way they learn and teach them to adapt to a variety of situations.
I am going to give some examples of what I mean.
If my child is distracted easily and can only work in silence, I will make him work in a room with noise or action for a certain amount of time each day. I think it would be my job to help him learn to concentrate and pay attention even in difficult circumstances. No I don’t think this is done overnight, but in small doses, my child can learn to adapt. It would be the same if my child was an auditory learner. For a certain time or subject, I would require him to complete a task visually.
Not all of life makes us comfortable. We can easily over-baby our kids when we are homeschooling them.
The second “bad” of homeschooling is helping others understand that homeschooling is simply the best choice for my family at this time. Do I think we are better or smarter? Of course not. Just spend some time with us and you’ll know we are not better or smarter. Homeschooling is simply a choice.
Clearly and honestly communicating your reasons for homeschooling and your goals for your children can go a long way in helping others understand your choice. I also think it’s important for us homeschoolers to keep our attitudes in check. Some are homeschooling due to a negative public school experience, but sometimes we just need to let some things go. Many, MANY children have great public school experiences. Again, homeschooling is a choice, and it’s not the best choice for everyone.
So in my vast four weeks worth of experience, those are my observations. Lots of you have been homeschooling forever, so feel free to add your two cents. Maybe my opinions will change as I go through the year. Who can tell? It all depends on if I ate my M&M’s or not.
I can tell you this one thing for sure. I’ve always had a great respect for teachers, but everyday I spend schooling my children, my respect grows. So do something nice for your child’s teacher. They deserve a Thank You!
PS This Friday is the first Friday of October. Can you believe it? Every Friday in October I will be putting up a linky and a Comfort Food recipe. I’d love for you to post your favorite recipe and link.
See you Friday!